Wow...my first blog...I am sitting here in my house with my dog sitting right by me. My fiance' and the kids have gone to church. I am here crippled due to my knee surgery yesterday. It sucks because I have always felt the need to be doing something, and I can't really sit still. I opened my Bible to see what God had for me this morning and it was really good to see what I saw. I opened up to Collossians 3:18 and I read to the end of the chapter. This has special meaning to me today because I had planned on doing a little bit of my Pre-marrital counseling homework today aswell. It said..."Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord". We men read that text at times and it seems like our elbows do to. Our elbows automatically find our wives, girlfriends, or fiance's arm as to say "lose the attitude and submit to me! I'm a man". What have we done to prove that we are a man. The text says, "...as is fitting in the Lord." So I can't expect her to submit to me if I am not in the Lord, or being led by the Lord. We are supposed to be taking care of Her like Christ takes care of the Church, right? So the more I am in the Lord, and Being led by the lord, the more Christ's spirit in the Lord will show through. She see's that and will have respect for it. So the jist of it is, don't expect her to respect, and follow you, if you are not in the Lord. Verse 19 said, " Husbands, love your wives and to not be harsh with them." Now what do we think of as harsh? Being loud, verbally abusive, physically abusive, demeaning, etc... yes all of these are true. When you have a woman that God gave to you, you must treat her with respect. She is your jewel. I am a coffee drinker and when I wake up in the morning I like to have a nice Hot cup of coffee. It makes me feel warm and comforted first thing in the morning. I know this might seem like a bad analogy, but I must treat my woman like my cup of coffee. I get up and walk to the coffee machine. I carefully make sure that I have the right mixture of coffee to water to make sure its not to strong or too weak. As it brews It begins to smell wonderful and the aromas start to fill the house. Once it is done I pour the coffee into my cup and I add creamer of my choice and the right amout of sugar. Now it is just right. I walk with it carefully as to not spill my perfected coffee. I savor every last drop, and now I am ready to start my day. The effects of the coffee will be with me uptil after lunch. So....when I wake up I want the first thing I do to be to make sure I speak to her. Wake her softly, slowly, and speak kind words to her. Treat her like your cup of coffee that you don't want to spill. Don't speak down to her, or discourge her. Because when you nurture her and "....Do not be harsh with them(her)" as the Bible says, Then the effects of her will stay with you for a long while. I was talking with my soon to be wife this morning and she said that woman are suductive, and thats what they are good at. Men are better suited for playing a womans emotions. Well said. God created men to be visual. We see something that catches our eye and we go for it. Women are beautiful creatures with wonderful accents that God placed on them. Beautiful faces, smiles, long soft hair, small waist's, breasts, behinds and smooth legs. Like I said men are visual. We see these things. Now if you have ALL of those things why in the world would I want to be harsh with her? God gave me this masterpiece of beauty and If I don't nurture her emotionally, and love her and care for her, I am not going to be doing my duty and I will have to answer to God one day for now taking care of one of his most treasured and fragile, yet strong creations. It goes in a circle. I take care of my wife emotionally, physically, and sprititually, therefore she is more apt to take care of me as well. She is more likely to share the Gifts God gave her with you.
I pray that God will give me a dose of his love so that I can treasure the gift that he has given me.
Colossians 3:18-19: "Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, Love your wives and do not be harsh with them."
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